Updated: Nov 21, 2020
For many individuals, being likeable, helpful, and supportive, are qualities that are important. When we say yes it is often with these attributes in mind. Saying yes can be very rewarding , when we feel needed and appreciated. It can also be a source of stress if we are feeling overwhelmed and over scheduled. Do you struggle with taking on more than you should? Does saying yes come too naturally, even at the expense of your inner peace?
I’m here to tell you, it’s okay to say no.
Stress is one of the greatest inhibitors to joy and happiness. There are exceptions. Healthy stress, when working toward a deadline, can be a great motivator. When stress begins to impact your wellbeing and relationships, it’s time to set boundaries.
Saying no is one of the best boundaries you can set for yourself.
We often think, saying no means we’re a bad person. We’re not being helpful. We may even think we’re being selfish. Saying no is not being selfish. It’s saying that you’re putting yourself first, that you value your time. When you set healthy boundaries, not only are you taking care of you, but by doing so, you’re better able to take care of those most important to you.